Your character plays an important role in becoming influential with others. We can say charisma /attractiveness and good communication skills are important, they are not enough to build lasting and impressive influence. There is not a versatile strategy for achieving influence. However, you can significantly benefit from inculcating the following habits.
1. Believe in yourself
This is the main habit for becoming influential. Believing in yourself is the starting point for others to start believing in you. When you feel confident and extend that confidence, people will naturally be drained to you.
2. Treat people with respect
It’s true that actions speak louder than words. When you treat people with regard, you are showing a part of your character that is amazingly valuable for you and for others. Respect/regard is one of the core values in life. People will trust you if you respect them.
3. Be genuine
Become an influential person for the right reasons.Be genuine in your words and actions –this will create opportunities for you to connect and attract with people positively. Make sure that what you say and what you do is situated with who you are.
4. Show interest in others
There is no room for self-obsessed or superficiality if your goal is to become influential or powerful. Ask people how they are doing and really mean it–listen to what they have to say. Debate thoughts and ideas. People like to feel recognized.
5. Speak politely
Communicate with people in a way that they understand and feel involved in the conversation. Forget about being rude, and avoid the know-it-all symptoms. Use words that enhance people up and create an effect on them.
6. Smile
Smiling is a way to make people feel greet. Let your smile be sincere and appropriate. Pay attention to the people around you: Chances are, they need a smile to lift their mood. A smile is an accessory, like a tie or a necklace–it adds a great touch to your personality.
7. Be helpful
Identify opportunities or chance to help others. Be energetic and attentive. There is always someone in need of help. Of course, be smart about how you approach people who may benefit from your nurturance. Being helpful boundless.
Practicing these few habits will create your reliability, and when your reliability is established, you will have huge opportunities to influence people. Remember that influence is primarily based on your character. The more positive character traits you express the more influential you will become.
8. Effective Communication
Communication is an art. Communication is one of most important aspect for Personality development. Let us discuss key important habits to be effective communicator.
- Conversation Ratio
Listening is the magnetic or charming and weird thing like a creative force and the person who listens to you is the one that you focus. In addition, superb conversation ratio is 75 listening and 25 speaking. Another important thing, when someone is cultivate the art of active listening, like nodding your head and going like wow, yeah amazing, superb, so when you are listening to them they really interact to you and try to connect with you. Another important point during communication is avoid me too syndrome. You know when somebody talks to us we have a tendency to say like that happened to me too, but it’s not about you it’s about them and always maintain kind eyes and a warm appreciative smile. Maintaining style during communication will attract people like magnet.
2. Ice Breaker Jokes
“Famous actor Jim Carrey once said that I become more attractive when I laugh at myself”.
A conversion is not complete without some leg pulling and laughing and a person becomes truly charismatic when they can confidently laugh at themselves. This shows that you are comfortable in your own skin and it relaxes the group immediately and group see the more human side of you and warm up to you instantly so have a good laugh at yourself
3. Name Card
Knowing somebody’s name is like having some power over them so when you are talking to somebody use their name frequently like hey Rahul how have you been have not seen you in a while now don’t crazily overdo it and the big mistake here is to fumble and say ah Rahul……….. make sure you remember their name and you use it frequently
4. Magnet of Friends
If you have group of friends and build this great relationships with people by socializing often it will be a great source of confidence for you but it is important to be genuine.
People actually like you not only for who you are but also for how you make them feel and if you make them feel good then you will be the perfect magnet for all your friends.
5. Art of Saying ‘NO’
It is quite difficult to get out of bed on a weekend especially after tiring week but more difficult is to say no to this over excited friend for a group meeting. it’s kind of this fine balance between being a likable and a rude person but a charismatic and confident person is one who can say no politely and yet firmly . Saying “NO” is an Art and key people skill. And one of best skill to manage your Social and professional circle.
6. Perfection
Perfectionism helps you to lead others, make impact on others. Maintaining personal high standard, creating high self-evaluation leads us to perfection.
7. Positivity
Positivity is an emotional and mental personality aspect towards our day-to-day activity and result that benefits you. Positive thinking helps us to anticipate happiness, heath and success, more important training yourself to cultivate gratitude for your own successes and those of others.
